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Gifted Children…The Challenge Continues

I was at the hospital coffee shop yesterday prior to my husband’s appointment with his speech therapist and regular infusion.  There are shelves of second-hand books in there which caught my attention.

I am a book worm ever since I was a kid.  I bought three books and one of them is ‘Gifted Children:  The Challenge Continues’ (A Guide For Parents and Teachers), edited by Angelica Jacob and Graham Barnsley.  This book was published by the New South Wales Association for Gifted and Talented Children.  It is a very interesting book which I intend to discuss by pieces in several articles here at LMC.

When I picked up Alvin at kindie around 3:30 pm, his teacher and the day care manager talked to me and discussed to me about Alvin’s behaviour at kindie.  He is not very fond mingling with other kids.  He is a very intelligent young boy but they are concern about his social skills.  Honestly, it is the same concern that I have for the last five months.

Since Ivana started big school in January, Alvin became more clingy to me.  His separation anxiety came back in the same way as he was when he’s much younger.  It was a huge change and adjustment for Alvin, first, to be separated from Ivana in schooling; second, to be separated from Ivana in swimming lesson as well; third, the sudden shift from nappy to under pants which is part of his potty training.

Sounds like merely ‘small things’ for us adults, aren’t they?  But for a young boy, they are issues that need to be addressed and taken into consideration.

Alvin’s teacher is concerned about his social skills, but she also emphasized that Alvin is different from other kids in a sense that his intellect is more advanced compared to other kids his age.

A little bit more about Alvin:  He started recognizing words at age 2.  He memorized the alphabet and counted up to 100 at age 2.5.  His sharp memory of letters and images and word association enabled him to spell words at age 2; these are words that are not simple for a 2-year old boy, like: light, shade, slide, orange, strawberry, rocket, alphabet, train etc.  At age 3.5 he already knows how to read simple sentences and write words on his own.  He also already knows to differentiate simple shapes and geometric shapes like hexagon, octagon, pentagon etc.  He is also good in re-telling stories.  He loves singing as well as dancing.

Read related and helpful article:  http://lovely-moms-cafe.com/2009/08/02/my-future-spelling-bee-champions/

Alvin’s teacher opined that Alvin ‘might’ be a gifted child and that they might need to adjust their program to suit his needs.  She suggested that I bring Alvin to the clinic at the hospital where children are brought for assessment to be able to know if he is in the bracket or norm as a ‘gifted child’.  She said that the assessment will help them, as well as me as a parent, to adjust and meet Alvin’s needs.  The clinic also teaches the parents how to handle gifted children.

For me, whether Alvin is gifted or not does not really matter.  What’s important is that he’ll grow healthy and a good person.  It is a matter of understanding how I can help him nurture his intellect, skills and talents and teach him how to use those gifts responsibly.  Having him as my son and the joy that raising him and Ivana brings to my life is already a precious gift indeed.

Managing Time With Your New-Born

Regardless of whether you are a first time mom or not, it is very important to keep yourself organized before and after giving birth.  But for first time moms though, I assure you that this post will give you more ideas that you need to make your life more manageable when your baby arrives.

The tips on what to get organized for the coming of your baby in my article entitled “Baby Checklist For Soon-To-Be-Moms” will surely provide you more ideas.

When I got pregnant with my first,  I started buying cloth nappies, white or neutral colored singlets, baby towels, bibs, bottles, steamers etc. as early as the fourth month.  For some, this might be too early, but I can say that it was just the right time.  By the time I approached my seventh and eight month I still felt like the time was not enough to organize everything.  At seventh month I have already organized the entire room with baby cot/bed and all the baby’s things were in place.

When my daughter came, everything seemed to be organized.  With my sister, mom and dad with me in the house, I was able to manage really well.  I realized that the most important thing that a new mom like me needed at that point in time was the love and support from my own family.  With them around, every bit of my daily routine with my daughter was so manageable.

Elders always say that when the new-born baby is asleep mother should take that opportunity to sleep as well or take a rest.  Most of the times I did that, especially during the first few months of the baby.  But since I was also breastfeeding, I also used the time to pump much breast milk while the baby is asleep.  I bottled the milk and put them in the fridge.  When the baby wakes up, my sister or my mom can feed the baby with the bottled breast milk while I do some other things like laundry or tidying up.  If nobody’s around to assist me, I can feed the baby while the bottle was leaned on a side ‘hotdog’ pillow and at the same time I can move around, keeping my eyes on the baby, and do something like organizing things inside the room.

It is very important to calendar errands and appointments where you need to leave the baby at home.  The best thing to do of course is to find someone to look after the baby on that particular day.  Giving the carer at least a couple of days notice will give you an assurance that someone will be there while you are away.  If I had to go to the bank or to my appointment with the ob-gynecologist  my sister or my mom always made sure that they have no appointment to meet or nowhere to go to at the same day.

It is also wise to do most of the things that you can do whenever you get the opportunity to get a carer and leave the baby at home.  After every visit with my ob-gynecologist, I used to do my banking, grocery shopping, or go to the salon to give myself a nice hair wash and head massage, dye and haircut, or go to my dentist for some procedures.  By the time I get home, which was almost afternoon, I was so glad and thankful that I made the most out of the few hours I spent outside home.

Most moms can hardly manage to eat on time.  True?  But the thing is eating your meals on time, aside from eating good and nutritious food that will boost your energy, is what makes us moms going and going and going.  It is a good idea to have easy-to-prepare recipes which will not take too much of our time.  One of my favorites is a ham or chicken caesar salad sandwich.  I consider them a complete meal considering that there’s protein, carbohydrates and lots of fiber in it.  You can even prepare this in advance, in the morning, while the baby is still asleep, put them in the fridge and reheat them at lunch time or afternoon tea time, or eat them as is.  Aside from having rest or nap whenever we can, eating adequately is our way of recharging and keeping ourselves healthy and strong.

Babies are demanding of our time until their first couple of years but at the end of the day parents usually are amazed by themselves on how they were able to manage everything.  I have been there and I know how it was like.  Even now that Ivana is 5 and Alvin is 3, I can say that the demands are still the same BUT more manageable.  I am starting to think sometimes that I have become a parenting expert in my own right, and, oh well, in my own space and home.

Raising Kids Is Indeed A Challenge!

I had a parents-teacher interview at kindie last Thursday.  It was intended to discuss with parents the development so far of the kids since they started attending preschool.  It was a one-on-one discussion and interview between the teacher and parents.

I was more than satisfied and happy with the way Alvin is developing in terms of intelligence:  numeracy and letter recognition, shapes, colors; motor skills; social skills, etc.  As compared to the time Alvin started kindie last January, he is now able to express himself much clearer in terms of words.  He is now very interested in singing and dancing.  He is brilliant when it comes to spelling.  This also includes word recognition which makes him remember that a certain word reads as such.  His memory is amazing for a two year old.  Please read related story that will give you hints on how to help your kids improve in spelling, word recognition, and help them get more interested in learning while having fun!

The teacher told me “We are trying to come up with new activities for Alvin so that he won’t get bored.  Maybe something that will challenge him more mentally.”  Although I don’t see Alvin getting bored with what he does everyday, I always wonder if he really will ever get bored of all this learning activities.  The thing is, it seems like for Alvin learning is a play and he is really having fun with it, which is really good.  Some parents might worry though if their kids are enjoying to learn and study and missing play to the point that they are missing a huge percentage of how their childhood should be.

Alvin fixing the bed and side table early in the morning.  Isn't he so sweet?

Alvin fixing the bed and side table early in the morning. Isn't he so sweet?

The best thing for parents to remember is that we should come up with all sorts of activities for our kids.   There must always be an activity where they can express their talents and playful selves.  It should not always be serious like doing homeworks all the time or reading books and studying.  For Alvin and Ivana, they have their weekly swimming lessons.  Ivana is also asking me to enrol her in dance classes which I definitely will.

Raising my kids is becoming more and more challenging to me each day as a parent.  There is something to look forward to everyday.  It is also an exciting experience when we discover something new with our kids’ abilities or skills.  Just have a look at my Alvin who surprised me with how good (not perfect though) he can fix mama and papa’s bed!

How challenging is raising kids for you?  Share your experiences and joy in parenting and raising your beautiful angels.  See you around lovely moms! :-D

My Princess Hannah

(Thess Gozun, also known as Tisya, is one of the friends I have met online.  I admire her for being a good writer, which I doubt she even knows she can really write.  I like the very natural flow of her thoughts and the way she put them into writing.  I have read her blog and asked for her permission to republish it here at LMC to share with all our moms here.  Tisya is a mom of two.  This article is about her daughter Hannah. – Toni)

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Tisya & daughter Hannah....

Tisya & daughter Hannah....

“being the first born she had all the privileges that her dad can afford. and being the first born she wished there will be no second birth but of course it didn’t happen…comes the dad junior. well up to now she resent having a baby brother who is not a baby anymore but pretending to be one.

at kindergarten she cries and yells everyday as in everyday and doesn’t want to be left with her teachers and for the record im the longest staying mom inside the classroom at a given time. who would think that she will be one of the brightest kids in her batch? she even won in bible quiz bee and spelling quiz bee at the age of 3. she graduated top2 but received 5 medals, more than the top1 received during grad day…..well I don’t know who can explain it hhmmmm…

at the age of three she knows more than bible story than i can remember and more than fairy tale stories that i’ve read. she really loves reading books..she even won in a poster making about god’s creation at that age…  matalino talaga, kanino kaya nagmana? (really intelligent, I wonder where she got that from) of course her dad would claim that it his genes.

her elementary years were never different,,,she’s always on top of her class. ONLYher dress sizes made the BIGGEST difference and she blamed it all to me because im also BIG, ganun (is that so)?

hey ! dont blame me for being sentimental…..she’s now in her freshman. everyday she’s been with the mirror longer than you can imagine, she have her own Friendster account and have more friends than i have she’s texting like mad ….tetetetetetexting ting ting,singing,singing,singing gang sumakit ang ulo ko (until I get a headache) seriously ,,,,,looking at her makes me a proud mom, she’s growing graciously and smarter everyday btw she’s now in the overall top1 slot in her school and defeated the freshmen and juniors during their school quizbee..yabang ko no?? (conceited me, hey?) well………

now that im no longer the stay at home mom that i used to be,i guess she misses it. one time she even told me she wanted me to resign from my work so i will be home most of the time na touch talaga ako (I was really touched) ……so by january i’ll be “home” again. btw the ‘baby brother”wants me to work pra daw maraming money (so that there would be more money he said) and the fight begins again…”

I See Myself In Her….

I have been very nostalgic lately.  The feeling was difficult and I just can’t stop the tears….

I dropped Ivana the other day in school.  When we arrived there, all the kids were outside on the playground.  I gave Ivana a kiss and a big hug before I left her as I said “I will see you later baby, have  a nice day”.  “Have a nice day too mama, I love you”, she said with her angelic voice as I walked away.  I sat in my car infront of the gate where I can see her.  I stayed there for about 20 minutes just watching her.  She was just standing there watching the other kids play.  Her best friend did not come that day and so I can tell she felt alone.  Ivana is a quiet type of girl, she observes a lot, she is always hesitant to approach other kids, she prefers that other kids approach her, and when they do she feels so shy as if she will melt.  Isn’t it that as kids we are afraid to be rejected by other people?  I can tell she can feel this sometimes as she have told me few times that the girls in school did not like her clothes or her shoes, but I wonder if what she meant was they did not like her.

And so for almost 20 minutes I was watching her and the sight of her alone standing there without anybody approaching her made me so emotional.  I cried.  I can see myself in her when I was a kid and I have experienced feelings of rejection so many times.  I knew inside me I was a good kid, generous, helpful…but why is it that kids like me did not find me interesting.  I felt like I was living in a world like an invisible object.  That was sad, and I do not want my kids to experience the same.

As parents, it is very important that we make our kids feel accepted, loved, and that they are beautiful in every way.  It is very good that we shower them with compliments whenever they are doing something good or they accomplish something that makes them really proud.  The fact that there were lots of times I was not given compliments as a child had a huge effect in my self-esteem which I am still carrying now that I am already an adult.  My parents were not very vocal about their love for me and my siblings; they are the type of parents who can’t even say the words “I love you” to their kids.  That fact though did not make them any less before my eyes, but made me realize instead how people are really different in so many ways.

I left school that day and drove home…the tears were not flowing anymore, but I felt so relieved with the realization that I can be a better parent and a mother.  There’s always room for improvement and lessons to learn from experience.

Health and Nutrition

Healthy moms create healthy families.  It is surprising that most of my friends who are also moms are starting to be health conscious.  Reading health books and magazines as well as gym sessions seem to become a fad.  It is also impressive to know that some moms are getting very conscious about nutrition labels on various products they purchase in the supermarket.

I thought to myself, isn’t that hard and time consuming reading all those labels before I put the item in my shopping bag?  Well, I am learning.  And I should say that it is very important to read labels of products we buy and be very choosy on what we buy for and feed our families.